Comments - Latest Popular Stories, Instablogs Community by Rhapsodysinger

Arjun

Arjun — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Hey commendable work, rhapsodysinger.

You have written a hard-hitting post which takes off the mask of humane from the society and presents the true picture.

It would benefit enormously if you could give some information regarding what makes one a pedophile. And also, if possible, please do try to lessen the blame on homosexuals which have become involved in this imbroglio.

Eyal

Eyal — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Excellent article my friend.

Instablogs is going to be favorite news site from now on.

Great stuff.

Shira

Shira — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

I have to say, I agree with your last statement! Actually, I agree with the whole article - its very well written, and I’m pleased to see that its an issue that is being talked about. The degree to which sexual abuse can ruin a person’s life is immense.

If you’ll permit me, I thought I’d try to answer Arjun’s question. A pedaphile is an adult who sexually abuses, manipulates, coerces, etc. children into sexual acts.

As for blaming homosexuals - I want to emphasize that lessening this myth is really important, not only for all the harmless homosexuals out there, but for protecting our children as well. Gay people and straight people commit child abuse in about the same percentages. Abuse is not a sexual act, it is an act of power - and sexuality has little to do with it. Many straight men still molest boys. Its important for parents to not assume that because someone is straight they are safe for their kids to be with. Additionally, a common reaction among boys who have been abused is homo-phobia, and fear that they themselves are gay.

Sanyog

Sanyog — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

You have penned and portrayed dark side of society beautifully in your words. I found case II is so horrible. Every child needs good care, you have opened our eyes. Parents should keep an eye on every individual the kid meets daily.

Chandni

Chandni — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

The government of India had published a survey report last year revealing more than 53% of children in India are subjected to sexual abuse. Most of them don’t report the assaults to their parents. Relatives and individuals known to the child were mostly found to be the perpetrators of child sexual abuse.

Raquel

Raquel — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

I am the Social Worker that worked with the child victims of this case, and I must say it is absolutely devastating what happened to these children.

Child sexual abuse is not a problem of a specific country, but the entire planet. Child sexual abusers can make the child extremely fearful of telling, and only when a special effort has helped the child to feel safe, can the child talk freely.

Sonu

Sonu — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Parents should believe children when they tell you they have been sexually abused in school or home. Ask your children to avoid physical contact with anybody, be it servant or any family member. Step in when your children show signs of discomfort about being held or hugged by a relative or family friend. Children should feel that they have choices of not being touched, kissed, or picked up if they don’t want to be.

Avneet

Avneet — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

We should learn how to teach our kids in the family about sexual abuse. It should not be a mere lecture. Women in family should make it part of a natural conversation while they are cooking, gardening, washing dishes, going for a walk.

Arefa

Arefa — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Avneet, you are right but let me tell you that children can’t remember everything you tell them about sexual abuse from one conversation. You should talk to them frequently which helps them absorb the information you give them when they get older.

Ketul

Ketul — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

It’s important that parents and adults must learn that children are not property, that they have rights too.

Farhan

Farhan — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

The situation is worse in India where parents are often reluctant to accept sexual abuse of children involving family members is almost always hushed up.

Mark

Mark — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Almost 19 per cent of the children population of the world lives in India. More than one-third of India’s population is made up of children below 18 years of age and at least 40% of these children are in need of care and protection to save them from Child abuse. India is the nation at danger.

Yash

Yash — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

India is a signatory to different international laws on the protection of children, but on the front of implementation of these laws, Government loses will-power.

Vinit

Vinit — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

It’s tough to find proper data for child abuse in India and what the reported incidence we get might be the tip of the iceberg. Domestic violence is common across the country. India has the largest number of child laborers and most of them involved in the rural areas. Most cases of abuses goes unnoticed and unreported because of the innocence of the victim, and insensitivity of the investigating and the law enforcement agencies in such cases.

Souransu

Souransu — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

What is the future of such street children? Who are there to care such kids when India has less numbers of child care NGOs and the government is doing nothing in this direction.

Bhagaban Sahu

Bhagaban Sahu — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

So the popular dictum will be ‘Child is no more father of God’.

Rhapsodysinger

Rhapsodysinger — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Well, to sort of tackle some of the issues raised by some of you here:

Child abuse is so tricky and hateful because sometimes kids do not know or understand that they are being abused. The abuser has tremendous power over the abused and everything is just hushed up. & very few people can take the shame that comes upon a family when a near and dear one is implicated. I firmly believe that pedophiles should be castrated...u know pedophiles are addicted to abusing kids and they do not stop till they are put in jail...